“Patience is the primary virtue needed in order to reach your destiny.” Tony Evans, Detours
We use the DiSC model in leadership training. As you can see below, the first question asked of people when they are trying to determine their DiSC style or the style of another without the assessment is, “Are you cautious and reflective or are you fast-paced and outspoken?” I’m so fast-paced and outspoken, you don’t even need to ask the next question (questioning and skeptical or accepting and warm?). I am a Di or an iD all day long.
So, it’s obvious that patience is not one of my virtues. In fact, it is quite contrary to the way I am wired.
I’m used to driving forward to meet goals without ever pausing to think about is this goal really what I want or need anymore. This has led to some positive results, but also an increasing inability to enjoy the process of getting there, not to mention stopping to examine if there are better goals to be pursuing.
This year, I’ve been learning the power of the pause. Through trying to force some things to happen in order to launch a new business we had set out to do this year, I have learned that oftentimes pausing to re-valuate the timing of and need for things is critical.
If you, like me, have trouble with pausing and patience, here are some things that have helped me self-reflect on whether or not a pause is needed:
- Are the right people, circumstances and resources available to drive forward? In my experience trying to launch this business, one of these things fell off, then another, then another. Yet, I was still trying to push forward because I had the goal written down on paper. When I realized that everything I thought I had at my disposal when I set that goal was no longer there, it was time to pause.
- Are you enjoying the pursuit? And enjoying it enough to push through resistance? If you don’t know whether you are coming or going and/or can’t stop and reflect on a few things each day you enjoyed doing as a part of the pursuit, it is probably not right. Also, if the first “no” and/or questions and skepticism come your way and you cave, it is probably time to pause and question is it worth it?
- Are other things put in front of you that need your attention more? A large volume of current client work, a son who needs a lot support and time from my husband and I right now, and my husband being promoted into a role he loves but that is more demanding of his time, I have realized are all more important priorities (sometimes not as fun, but always more important) and have led to the need for pause in this area of pursuit that I thought would be a large part of my focus for the year.
I love this thought by Tony Evans from Detours:
“Training for greater things always takes place in lesser things. … always-always-always be faithful where you are..,Far too often, we are chasing our destiny so much that we forget to maximize the location where we are right now.”
My pause has been such a blessing. And the pause, I believe, is now making way for this pursuit to, at the right time, become a more fruitful reality.
How are you pausing to maximize where you are right now?
