Category: Personal Development

This week, we are thrilled to feature Guest Blogger, Mark Danaher. Mark is an Executive & Career Coach at Careers by Design and a good friend of Horizon Point. Originally published on LinkedIn, here is “Beyond the Office: 7 Powerful Ways to Cultivate Your Identity Outside Your Career”.

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” – Alice Walker.

In a world where 55% of Americans define themselves primarily by their job, according to a 2014 Gallup poll, it’s crucial to pause and reflect: Are you more than your office role? This startling statistic reveals a dangerous trend in our society – the merging of personal identity with professional roles. While dedication to one’s career is admirable, allowing it to become the sole definition of who you are can lead to a precarious balancing act, leaving you vulnerable to burnout, stress, and a loss of self when faced with career changes or setbacks.

As a career strategist and resume development expert, I’ve witnessed firsthand the pitfalls of over-identifying with one’s career. I’ve lived through it myself. For over 14 years, I served as a career counselor and coordinator at Manchester, pouring my heart and soul into helping others find their path. My role wasn’t just a job; it was who I was. Then, without warning, a new principal closed the career center, pulling the rug out from under me.

Suddenly, I found myself adrift, grappling with a profound sense of loss. Who was I if not the career counselor? How could I introduce myself without my title? The burnout and stress that followed were overwhelming, and it took working with a coach to rediscover my purpose and reconnect with the world beyond my former role.

This experience taught me a valuable lesson: while our careers can be a significant part of our lives, they shouldn’t define us entirely. In this article, we’ll explore seven powerful strategies to grow your identity beyond your career, ensuring that you’re not just surviving in your professional life, but thriving as a whole person.

1. Quantify Your Life, Not Just Your Work

In the professional world, we’re often taught to quantify our achievements. “Increased sales by 30%,” “Managed a team of 15,” “Reduced costs by $100,000.” These metrics are valuable on a resume, but what about quantifying the other aspects of your life?

Challenge yourself to apply this same principle to your personal growth and hobbies. For example:

– “Read 52 books in a year”

– “Volunteered 100 hours at the local animal shelter”

– “Learned to play 10 new songs on the guitar”

By quantifying your personal achievements, you’re not only setting goals for yourself outside of work but also recognizing the value of your non-professional pursuits. This practice helps shift your focus from solely career-based accomplishments to a more holistic view of your capabilities and interests.

2. Problem-Solving Beyond the Office

Your ability to overcome challenges shouldn’t be limited to your professional life. Could you identify problems in your community or personal life and apply your problem-solving skills there? This helps others and reinforces that your value extends beyond your job title.

For instance, if you notice a lack of green spaces in your neighborhood, you could:

– Research urban gardening initiatives

– Propose a community garden project to local authorities-. Organize volunteers and resources

– Implement the project and measure its impact on the community

By tackling issues outside of work, you’re demonstrating to yourself and others that your skills and initiative have a broader application. This can be especially powerful when facing career transitions or setbacks, as it reminds you of your inherent problem-solving abilities.

3. Take Initiative in Personal Growth

As you might go above and beyond in your career, apply that same initiative to your personal development. Set ambitious goals for yourself that have nothing to do with your job. This could involve:

– Learning a new language

– Training for a marathon

– Starting a blog about a passion project

– Taking up a challenging hobby like rock climbing or chess

A study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies found that individuals who engaged in leisure activities reported higher levels of life satisfaction and lower levels of stress. By taking initiative in areas outside of work, you’re not only expanding your skillset but also building resilience and a more robust sense of self.

4. Optimize Your Personal Time

Efficiency shouldn’t be confined to the workplace. You can look for ways to streamline your personal life to make more time for the things that truly matter to you. This might include:

– Meal prepping to save time during busy weekdays

– Creating a capsule wardrobe to simplify your morning routine

– Using productivity apps to manage household tasks and errands

By optimizing your time, you’re freeing up space for activities that contribute to your identity outside of work. This could mean more time for family, hobbies, or self-care – all crucial elements of a well-rounded identity.

5. Lead in Your Community

Leadership is about more than managing teams at work. Look for opportunities to lead in your community or groups aligned with your interests. This could involve:

– Coaching a youth sports team

– Organizing a neighborhood watch program

– Leading a book club or hobby group

– Serving on the board of a local non-profit

A 2018 Corporation for National and Community Service study found that volunteers have a 27% better chance of finding employment. However, the benefits extend far beyond career prospects. Community leadership allows you to develop new skills, build a diverse network, and make a tangible impact outside of your professional sphere.

6. Apply Your Skills to Passion Projects

Your professional skills have value beyond the workplace. Could you identify ways to apply these skills to projects or causes you’re passionate about? For example:

– If you’re a marketing professional, offer your expertise to a local charity

– If you’re an IT specialist, volunteer to teach coding to underprivileged youth

– If you’re a financial advisor, start a blog offering budgeting tips for young adults

By applying your skills in diverse contexts, you’re reinforcing that your abilities are part of who you are, not just what you do for a living. This can be particularly empowering during career transitions or when facing professional challenges.

7. Cultivate Diverse Relationships

Your network shouldn’t be limited to professional contacts. Actively seek out and nurture relationships with people from various walks of life. This might include:

– Joining clubs or groups based on your hobbies

– Attending community events or workshops

– Volunteering for causes you care about

– Participating in online forums or social media groups aligned with your interests

A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that having a diverse social network contributes to greater life satisfaction and resilience. By building relationships outside of your professional circle, you’re creating a support system that isn’t tied to your career status.

The Journey to a Holistic Identity

Remember, growing your identity beyond your career is a journey, not a destination. It requires conscious effort and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone. As you implement these strategies, you likely find that your sense of self becomes more robust and resilient.

Psychologist Dr. Susan David, author of “Emotional Agility,” offers this powerful insight: “The most resilient individuals and organizations aren’t the ones that don’t fail, they’re the ones that fail, learn, and thrive because of it.” By diversifying your identity, you’re building this resilience, preparing yourself to thrive regardless of professional ups and downs.

My journey from career counselor to rediscovering my purpose taught me that our true value lies not in our job titles but in the unique combination of skills, passions, and experiences that make us who we are. By consciously cultivating your identity beyond your career, you’re not diminishing your professional self but rather enriching your whole self.

As you progress, challenge yourself to assess the balance between your professional and personal identities regularly. Are you giving enough time and energy to your life outside of work? Are you recognizing and celebrating your non-professional achievements with the same enthusiasm as your career milestones?

Remember, you are not your job title. You are a complex, multifaceted individual with the power to define yourself on your terms. By embracing this truth and actively working to grow your identity beyond your career, you’re not just safeguarding against professional setbacks – you’re opening yourself up to a richer, more fulfilling life.

In the words of Roman philosopher Seneca, “As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.” Make your tale about more than just your career. Make it a story of growth, resilience, and the continuous discovery of who you truly are.

Reach to me if you are struggling with your identity. Talk to Mark

For similar content on what we call “wholepersonness” and work-life integration, check out these posts on The Point Blog:

• The Unattainable Work Life Balance
• Sabbatical Season & Seasons of Life
• How to Be Perfect (Or Not)
• 8 Ways to Display a People First Mindset