I was so excited about my husband’s Christmas gift in 2018. We had just begun renovating our home which would include an outdoor living space. We discussed wanting a large table in this space to be able to have people over to eat and fellowship regularly. I contacted a friend who owns a company that does custom woodworking and asked him to get a table created for us. Nine feet long I told him, sassafras wood, bench seats. The table wasn’t ready in time for Christmas nor was the space to put it, so I printed a picture of one similar
Interpersonal skills are a distinguishing factor in what makes people successful. I’m not talking about us all needing to be extraverts, I’m talking about us being able to understand ourselves and others and relate to people in a way that builds connections and relationships. Many people refer to this as emotional intelligence. I often hear employers talk about how job candidates’ interpersonal skills are lacking. Components of this include poor communication skills, low self-awareness, inability to control emotions and to read and respond to emotion in others. Many cite the constant connection to technology leading to the demise of strong
Note: This is the first of a two-part post on the value of abiding in patience in order to achieve the best kind of learning. The value is described here, whereas how to do it is contained in the second post here. Patience is not one of my virtues. And oftentimes, the world reinforces what seems to be the need for it not to be. Get it done and get it done fast so you can get more done is often the mantra whether we consciously or unconsciously preach this to ourselves or hear it from others. And we are
Written by: Lorrie Coffey, Horizon Point Consulting Your top employee or best manager just walked into your office holding that dreaded piece of paper. You know, the one with the words “thank you for this great opportunity, I respectfully resign my position” typed neatly on it. As you read it, your mind starts brainstorming “what can I do to get them to stay?!” You can’t lose them, they’re the best of the best. You’ll never be able to find someone with their skill set and knowledge of the organization. You’ll spend months training their replacement just to get them up
Publix grocery delivery has changed my life! Well maybe that is an exaggeration but discovering how easy and beneficial this is at nine months pregnant is a game-changer. If you haven’t tried it (or another type of grocery delivery service) I suggest you do. It is saving me at least two hours weekly prepping for the grocery store, going to the grocery store, shopping, and then unloading all groceries. It’s delegating a task that you can’t create (or are the best person to create) value from at its finest. It’s what millionaires do. The best kind of delegating. Leadership is
Written by: Lorrie Coffey, Horizon Point Consulting Things don’t always go as planned. After a great week at SHRM19 in Las Vegas, I planned to be back in the comforts of my own home Wednesday night. But thanks to bad weather and a missed connection, I spent the night at Chicago O’Hare Airport. I was exhausted and just wanted to get home. But what could have been a miserable experience turned out to be an adventure. And as I sit here watching the sun come up over Chicago, waiting for my flight home, I’m reminded of a few leadership lessons.
I’ve been asked to speak to a group of high school student leaders this week. I’m always open to almost any topic the organizers want me to cover that I have expertise in. In this case, what started off as a talk about communication skills morphed into talking about building confidence. The adult leader said that she felt as though this was a challenge for most youth of today. I see this point and also see where there are a variety of factors contributing to it. One factor that I see related to both challenges in communication skills and confidence is the
Written by: Lorrie Coffey, Horizon Point Consulting “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.” During a recent conversation with a client, he raised a concern about his leadership team expecting him to make every decision. The previous leadership set that expectation, but he wants to empower his team to make decisions they are capable of making. The conversation reminded me of when my children were younger and learning new skills, like riding a bike. My youngest is very headstrong and lacks patience (he doesn’t take after his mother at all). If he doesn’t get it right the
The shortest distance to solve a conflict does not take the path of a triangle. One of the best interview questions to ask, regardless of the position is, “Tell me about a time when you had a conflict with another person and how did you resolve it?” This question was asked in an interview panel I was a part of and I loved the applicant’s response. She started by stating, “I don’t practice triangular conflict resolution,” and then proceeded to describe a situation in which she went directly to the person the conflict was with in order to resolve the
Written by: Lorrie Coffey, Horizon Point Consulting The end of the school year brings final exams, award ceremonies, parties, and best of all, summer. My boys have been counting down the days. And with their countdown comes the usual question I face every year. “What are we doing this summer?” I always try to do fun things with them throughout the summer that they will each enjoy. But with three boys ranging from 9 to 15, that’s not always easy. Their interests don’t always match up. What my nine-year-old finds thrilling, my fifteen-year-old finds more boring than watching paint dry.