Author: Lorrie Coffey

  • Make It Effective… Improve Communication Within Your Organization!

    Make It Effective… Improve Communication Within Your Organization!

    Think about your family, organizations you volunteer with, the company you work for. How would you rate communication in each of these groups? Do the members of each of these groups communicate effectively with each other, or is something lacking?

    We learn to communicate from a very early age, learning to listen and speak as an infant and later on learning to read and write. However, even though we learn to communicate very early in our lives, many people have difficulty communicating effectively.

    As an HR professional, one of the complaints I hear most often from employees and leadership within organizations is that there is a lack of effective communication. This lack of communication in the workplace often leads to added stress and tension among employees, loss of productivity, a decrease in employee morale, and turnover.

    • Businesses with effective communication are 50% more likely to have lower employee turnover. (ClearCompany)
    • 33% of employees said a lack of open, honest communication has the most negative impact on employee morale (HerdWisdom)
    • Miscommunication costs even smaller companies of 100 employees an average of $420,000 annually. (Top Ten Email Blunders that Cost Companies Money, Deborah Hamilton)

    So how can you improve communication within your organization?

    1. Keep employees informed. Make sure employees know what is going on in the organization. If your company just made a major policy change or won a new client contract, make sure your employees know. Send out a communication to all employees, have managers announce it during team meetings, or post it in the employee break room.
    2. Provide training to your leadership. Good communication starts from the top. If your leaders aren’t effective communicators, that will trickle down to the rest of your employees. Make sure leaders have the training and tools needed to communicate effectively.
    3. Listen to and address employee concerns. If employees come to you with concerns about communication, take those concerns seriously and address them. Whether the concern is regarding a single employee or a department, determine how you as a leader can help improve communications.
    4. Remember, it’s not always what you say but how you say it. Communication involves a lot more than just what you say. Body language and tone play an important part as well. So be sure you’re conveying the message you intend to convey through your body language and tone.
    5. Use the appropriate method of communication. Make sure you’re using the appropriate method of communication to get your message across. Is the message best communicated via email, phone, or in person? This may vary depending on what message your conveying as well as who your audience is.

    For information on Communication Training, as well as other training topics we offer, click here.

  • Take the Negative out of No

    Take the Negative out of No

    This past weekend the pastor from my former church in Virginia stepped down from his position due to health issues. As I watched the Indoctrination Ceremony to install the new pastor online, I was overwhelmed by my pastor’s grace and gratitude. I was inspired by his authenticity regarding his circumstances.

    As he spoke of his need to step down, he also spoke of his calling to step up into a supporting role for the new pastor, someone that has been a part of the church and supported him for many years. He spoke of saying “no”, so that he could say “yes” to God’s new calling for him.

    We are taught at a very young age that no carries a negative meaning and has negative results. But as William Ury outlines in his book The Power of the Positive No, if done right, saying no can have a positive impact and is necessary in order to get to the right yes.

    So how can you create a positive no?

    • Explain your reason for saying no. Perhaps you don’t have time or what is being asked is outside of your expertise.
    • Offer up an alternative. Offer to help find someone who can say yes or provide an alternative solution to the problem.
    • Don’t be afraid to say “I need time to think about it.” If you’re not sure if you can help, think about it and get back to them within a reasonable amount of time.
    • Confirm that you think the idea is a great one and apologize for not being able to help. Provide positive feedback to reinforce their efforts and let them know that you wish you could help to see it through.

    By taking the negative out of no, you keep the door open for a future yes.

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  • Finding Your Own Path

    Finding Your Own Path

    A recent conversation with my eight-year old son made me realize just how early in life we begin to compare ourselves to others and try to adjust who we are to fit in with those around us.

    As we continue to explore authenticity, and specifically being true to yourself and not comparing yourself to others, I am reminded of this quote.

    Our journeys are each unique, the paths we take are ours alone.

    For a great article about one man’s journey to being authentically happy and his three principles for accepting yourself, read Paul Dalton’s story.

  • Living Life Gratefully is Living Life Authentically

    Living Life Gratefully is Living Life Authentically

    My great-grandmother taught me the art of gratitude. She lived a very hard life, but through it all she was grateful. She always found the positive in everything and helped others see the positive in their lives as well. As we explore how to be authentic, I find myself thinking of her and what she taught me a lot. This quote from best-selling author Sarah Ban Breathnach is the perfect illustration of what effect gratitude can have on you.

    “You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: The more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given to you.”

    As Josie Robinson, author of The Gratitude Jar: A Simple Guide to Creating Miracles, said, “Focusing on what you have to be grateful for forces you to not only become a more positive person – but to attract more positive situations into your life because they become self-fulfilling prophecies of the thoughts you’re putting out into the world.”

    For suggestions on how to live a grateful life, visit www.josierobinson.com.

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  • Hearing vs. Understanding: The Art of Active Listening

    Hearing vs. Understanding: The Art of Active Listening

    One of my favorite active listening quotes comes from Stephen Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, is: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” The art of active listening isn’t easy, but it’s important.

    Last night my husband came home from work and walked through the door with that look on his face. The one that leaves no question about what kind of day he had and makes me wonder if I should even brave asking.

    I took a deep breath and dove in.

    He proceeded to tell me about an issue he’s having at work and how the meeting he and his boss had to address the issues went completely sideways. The person they met with kept interrupting them and disputing everything they said. In the end, the meeting accomplished nothing but to further increase the stress on all parties.

    I’m a listener. I much prefer to sit back and watch everyone around me and listen to what they say. But the art of active listening is in the details. To really listen, or be an active listener, requires so much more than just hearing the words. There are five stages to active listening:

    • Receiving or hearing the message being delivered
    • Understanding or learning from what was said
    • Remembering or retaining the information provided to you
    • Evaluating or judging the content of the message received
    • Responding or providing feedback to the deliverer of that message

    My husband knows when he brings up work issues that I go into HR mode. So after a long talk and lots of questions from me, he began to realize that the meeting failed not just because the other person refused to listen, but so did he. While he heard the concerns they presented, he failed to understand what they were saying. He simply responded back with his own concerns, not evaluating and taking into account the information they had attempted to provide him.

    Some of my recommendations to him included:

    • Know when to engage in conversation: The meeting was held when tempers were still flaring. None of them walked into the meeting with the intent of listening, only with the intent of speaking.
    • Don’t interrupt the speaker: You can’t receive, understand, and evaluate the message if you don’t let them deliver the entire message.
    • Focus on the message, not the sender: By going into the meeting frustrated, my husband engaged in bias by not giving the message the attention it deserved because he was unhappy with the person delivering that message.
    • Know when you need help: One of my suggestions to my husband was that it could have been beneficial to all involved if they had asked a neutral third party to attend the meeting and help mediate it.

    I often fail at my own advice, especially where my boys are concerned. So this year I have committed to being a more active listener with them, to give my time to them and not just hear what they say, but understand it. The art of active listening is like any art; we have to practice it to hone it.

    How can you commit to being an active listener this year?

    The Practice of Listening is one of the 5 things we believe can lead to living an authentic life. Want to read more about living authentically?

    2018 Is the Year of Authenticity 

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