Category: Personal Development

We all need a little personal development mixed in with our professional and career development. Read blogs in this category for stories and best practices for personal wellness and wellbeing, skills improvement, and  more.

  • “There’s no bathroom for me here…” Finding Your Voice

    “There’s no bathroom for me here…” Finding Your Voice

    I sat down to watch a movie a week or so ago with my husband.  I average getting through about one full movie a year (apart from the Disney movies that are constantly playing at my house…. “Let it go, Let it go…. Oh, I digress….) so I’m ahead of schedule this year.

    It was a movie I asked my husband to get, Hidden Figures, and after three months of it sitting in its Netflix case he told me it was time to watch it or he was simply going to send it back.

    So we watched it. I thought I’d fall asleep in the middle of it, but talk about a powerful film. If you haven’t seen it, see it.

    It’s the story of three brilliant black women working for NASA as the USA sought to get a person into space.

    Katherine Johnson, played by Taraji P. Henson, is assigned to an important job and of course is the only African American female in the department. Her boss, played by Ken Costner realizes how smart she is and begins to rely heavily on her skills.

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    To be authentic, we have to find our voice.  We can’t shy away from it.  But, as we see from this scene, there are some important things to consider in finding and expressing our voice.

    1. For our voice to have power, we can’t force in on people. Katherine didn’t come right out and complain immediately about the bathroom situation. She worked to handle it the best she could.
    2. Sometimes our voice has to be solicited to be heard. And our voice is solicited when we demonstrate our competency and commitment. Katherine expressed her voice when her boss solicited it. Not before.  Because she was solicited it was heard.  I’m not saying this is at all right or fair.  Everyone should have a voice, especially when injustices exist, but to be heard we need to consider these first two points.
    3. Expressing our voice often allows us to address the big picture issues not just the current situation. This scene shows that Katherine not only addresses the specific issue of the bathroom, but she also addresses pay inequities and overall injustices and prejudices.
    4. Expressing our voice in an authentic way causes other people to act. You don’t see it in this clip, but if you’ve seen the movie you know the boss played by Kevin Costner addresses the inequities Katherine exposes through her voice.  He tears down the bathroom sign that doesn’t allow “coloreds” to use it.  He doesn’t let it go, and he doesn’t address it through his voice.  He addresses it through action.
    5. Which shows us, often our voice is loudest through our actions not our words. As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.”  Especially when you’re a leader like the boss in this film.   He was setting an example and precedent to show others what acceptable (and unacceptable) behavior in the organization looks like.

     

    When has the power of your voice led others to act?

     

     

     

  • Take time for the little things…

    Take time for the little things…

    As we continue to focus on authenticity and specifically “gratitude” in relation to living authentically, I thinks this quote says it all.

    What are you grateful for?

    Want to know how gratitude can change your life? Here is a great post for you to check out.

    Here are more posts on living in gratitude, part of our Year of Authenticity series, you may enjoy:

    Living in Gratitude

    Living Life Gratefully is Living Life Authentically

    2018 Is the Year of Authenticity

  • Want Real Teamwork? Start With Vulnerability!

    Want Real Teamwork? Start With Vulnerability!

    I was sitting in a multi-day training with a group of executive leaders. I had yet to put my finger on what was missing with this team, when a question was asked that made me realize, these people don’t know each other. Through this question, it became apparent that they aren’t “allowed” to put their guard down and be real. They don’t feel like they have permission to be vulnerable.

    Some of these people had been working together for ten plus years and were hard pressed to name any of their colleagues hobbies much less their co-workers spouse and/or kids’ names.

    And they were passing this mindset down the chain and throughout the company. The uber-professional guard they had up was creating issues with trust, teamwork, and ultimately business results.

    To be an authentic leader requires a certain level of vulnerability. As Criss Jami said, “To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”

    It’s hard, though, to just come flat out and ask, “tell me how you are weak” especially with people in leadership roles. If you have a team lacking in vulnerability with each other, here are three suggestions (starting from easiest to most difficult to facilitate) to get people talking in a way that exposes vulnerability and allows strength to rise out of weakness:

    1. Ask the group to answer a pre-prepared list of questions about themselves. Then have the group simply share their responses. These questions can be anything from, “Do you have pets? What kind and what are their names?” to “Where did you grow up?” to more probing and thought provoking questions like “What is the best advice you have ever received?” to “What do you want your legacy to be?”
    2. Simply ask the group to share their response to what has been their greatest success in life so far and what has been their greatest failure. I would also suggest you ask for the greatest professional and personal success and failure so that people don’t limit their responses to only work related answers that the team may already know.
    3. Ask the group to share their story. To do this, ask them to share the 5-7 defining moments of their life that have shaped who they are.

    As Brene Brown said, “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
     

    How do you help people step into the light by way of darkness?

    Shine today.

     

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  • Living in Gratitude

    Living in Gratitude

    Continuing with our Year of Authenticity theme, today I’m thinking about and working towards the idea of living in gratitude.

    Living in Gratitude –  For out of a place of gratitude comes the ability to see all things for what they are.

    If you missed the blog post regarding our theme, check it out here: 2018 Is the Year of Authenticity.

    Our lives are busy. One way to work towards living authentically is to be grateful for what we have, including a busy schedule. After a weekend out of town, I worked on my fourth load of laundry. Although I wanted to grumble about everything I needed to do to catch up, I reminded myself to be grateful for clothes to wash, healthy children to clothe and for a washing machine.

    How else can we live in gratitude? Here are a few ideas:

    1. Start each day with a mental list of what you can be grateful for. (For me personally, this is prayer time.)
    2. Take time to say, “thank you”. Whether it is to text a sweet aunt for your birthday card or to simply thank a stranger for letting you go ahead of them in the grocery line, take time to show that you appreciate the thoughtfulness of others.
    3. Give. This year, one of my “people first” goals is to work towards doing at least one small act of kindness each week. It doesn’t have to cost a thing. A quick text or call to encourage someone else who may be having a tough week is a great way to live in gratitude.

    One of my favorite authors, Richard Paul Evans, has “GratiTuesday” each week on his Facebook page. What a great way to find out what others are grateful for! Check it his page here: https://www.facebook.com/RPEfans/.

  • Living Life Gratefully is Living Life Authentically

    Living Life Gratefully is Living Life Authentically

    My great-grandmother taught me the art of gratitude. She lived a very hard life, but through it all she was grateful. She always found the positive in everything and helped others see the positive in their lives as well. As we explore how to be authentic, I find myself thinking of her and what she taught me a lot. This quote from best-selling author Sarah Ban Breathnach is the perfect illustration of what effect gratitude can have on you.

    “You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: The more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given to you.”

    As Josie Robinson, author of The Gratitude Jar: A Simple Guide to Creating Miracles, said, “Focusing on what you have to be grateful for forces you to not only become a more positive person – but to attract more positive situations into your life because they become self-fulfilling prophecies of the thoughts you’re putting out into the world.”

    For suggestions on how to live a grateful life, visit www.josierobinson.com.

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