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Category: Leadership Development

Beyond Leadership is Horizon Point’s line of resources for managers of people. Managing ourselves is a distinct set of behaviors from managers the work of others, and we are here to help. Read stories in this category if you are ready to take the next step in your own leadership development (or if you’re looking for resources for someone else).

  • Make It Fun: Choosing AND at Work

    Make It Fun: Choosing AND at Work

    Mary Ila spoke at the 2025 DisruptHR Huntsville event in August, all about how to make work fun and productive. Here’s a recap on what her five minute talk emphasized! 

    Work and play. Too often, we treat them as opposites—like you can only have one at the expense of the other. But what if the real secret to stronger results, happier teams, and better workplaces is choosing AND?

    At Horizon Point, we believe the most impactful organizations are the ones that put people first. And putting people first means recognizing that work and play don’t have to be at odds. In fact, blending the two is where innovation and connection thrive.

    The Power of AND

    For decades, we’ve separated the serious from the playful. Work is about productivity, deadlines, and outcomes. Play is what happens after hours. But that split ignores a core truth: people bring their best selves to work when they feel safe, connected, and able to enjoy what they do.

    By embracing AND, we unlock a workplace culture where high performance and genuine joy coexist.

    The Elements of Work AND Play

    When we think about combining work and play, three core elements rise to the top:

    1. Fun

    Fun doesn’t mean frivolous. It means creating moments of levity and joy that break up the intensity of daily tasks. Laughter, shared activities, or simply celebrating wins together makes teams more resilient and energized.

    2. Connection

    Play builds bridges. When teams connect on a human level—beyond job titles and roles—they develop trust that strengthens collaboration and communication.

    3. Inclusivity

    Play levels the playing field. When everyone is invited in, regardless of position or personality, workplaces become more open, creative, and equitable.

    Psychological Safety: The Foundation

    Of course, fun, connection, and inclusivity can’t thrive without psychological safety.

    Psychological safety is the shared belief that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking. When employees know they can speak up, make mistakes, and be themselves without fear of judgment, they feel respected and valued. Research shows it’s one of the most important factors in effective teams.

    Your Turn

    So, how do you choose AND at work?

    • Find small ways to infuse fun into your team’s routine.
    • Be intentional about building meaningful connections.
    • Make sure everyone feels included, seen, and valued.
    • Create a culture where psychological safety is the norm, not the exception.

    Work and play. Productivity and joy. Results and people first. When we stop choosing one over the other, that’s when workplaces truly thrive.

  • What the Dentist’s Chair Can Teach Us About Leadership

    What the Dentist’s Chair Can Teach Us About Leadership

    When have you seen psychological safety in action? A few weeks ago, my youngest son, who is fifteen, had a dentist appointment. Unlike me, my kids have always enjoyed going to the dentist—or at least not dreaded it. I was always thankful, especially when they were little, that trips to the dentist didn’t end in a meltdown. And I give a lot of credit to the pediatric dentist and her staff for that.

    They had a way of making kids feel completely at ease. What helped my son feel comfortable—even in a situation where many kids (and adults!) feel anxious—was something we talk about often in leadership: psychological safety.

    The dental team welcomed questions. They showed the kids the tools, explained what they were going to do, and used language they could understand. The unknown wasn’t scary—because it wasn’t unknown anymore. Step by step, they built trust by creating an environment where curiosity was encouraged and no question was too small.

    That approach didn’t just reduce fear—it actually made him want to be there. Psychological safety in action.

    What ‘Psychological Safety in Action’ Means for Leaders

    The same principles apply at work. If we want people to show up fully, stay engaged, and take ownership, we have to create spaces where they feel safe to ask questions, express concerns, and understand the “why” behind what we’re doing.

    Motivation isn’t about pizza parties or quick perks. It’s about creating a culture where people feel energized, committed, and able to perform at their best—a culture grounded in trust and growth.

    Why Psychological Safety Matters

    At Horizon Point, we talk a lot about psychological safety—the belief that it’s okay to speak up, ask questions, and offer ideas without fear of negative repercussions. In fact, Google’s Project Aristotle found that psychological safety is the most important factor in high-performing teams. When it’s present, employees are more likely to contribute, take initiative, and stay engaged.

    Safety Isn’t Soft—It’s Strong

    But psychological safety alone isn’t enough. Part of a psychologically safe environment is the ability to manage conflict successfully. Too often, leaders avoid conflict to “keep the peace.” But as Amy Edmondson—one of the top authorities on psychological safety—says:

    “Psychological safety is not about being nice. It’s about giving candid feedback, openly admitting mistakes, and learning from each other.”

    Kim Scott, in her book Radical Candor, builds on this idea: leaders must care personally and challenge directly. Avoiding conflict isn’t protecting your team—it’s often self-serving. It creates distrust, fuels passive-aggression and resentment, and slows innovation.

    You need both – safety and conflict management skills. A team with psychological safety but no conflict skills becomes stagnant. A team with conflict skills but no psychological safety stays silent out of fear. Psychological safety in action is the foundation; healthy conflict is the catalyst for growth.

    Lead with Vulnerability and Structure

    As leaders, we set the tone by modeling vulnerability. That means admitting mistakes, inviting feedback, and showing up even when we’re unsure. As Brené Brown says in Dare to Lead:

    “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.”

    By showing vulnerability as a leader, you give your team permission to do the same. Of course, this comes with guardrails:

    • Structure how concerns are raised.
    • Ensure communication is professional and constructive.
    • Recognize and reward honest feedback and collaboration—not just results.

    Motivated Teams Are Aligned, Not Always in Agreement

    Having a psychologically safe team that manages conflict well doesn’t mean everyone agrees all the time. It means team members respect each other’s different views and work through them constructively. Motivated teams aren’t always in agreement – they’re in alignment. That’s psychological safety in action.

    Books, books, books!

    Want to know more about the books Lorrie mentioned this week? Check them out on our Bookshop.org featured list:

  • What’s Ethical Isn’t Always What’s Easy

    What’s Ethical Isn’t Always What’s Easy

    Years ago I worked for a small company that was in financial trouble. The CEO asked me to alter payroll records because the company couldn’t afford to pay employees, employer taxes, or 401k contributions. I knew the request wasn’t just unethical—it was illegal. I also knew that refusing could cost me my job–-and it did. Situations like this—where personal and professional consequences collide—are the kind of ethical gray zones HR professionals face every day.

    Ten years ago, ethics in the workplace often meant compliance training and checking boxes. Today, it’s about how values show up in hiring decisions, leadership behavior, and even how we exit employees.

    That’s why I’m excited to be leading a session this week at the Alabama SHRM Conference, diving deep into Ethics in HR. We’ll explore core ethical principles, the most common challenges HR professionals face, and how to build a practical framework for navigating tough decisions—even in complex, uncomfortable situations where there may be no clear right answer. (We’re also launching a brand new eCourse all about Ethics in HR!)

    At the same time, with increasing attention on workplace transparency, DEI, and employee well-being, HR leaders are under more pressure than ever to make ethical decisions that align with both legal standards and evolving cultural expectations.

    Have you ever been asked to bend the rules “just this once”? What did you do? Ethics in the workplace isn’t always about obvious misconduct—it’s often about subtle pressures and competing interests.

    Ethics isn’t just a one-time conversation—it’s a critical skill set that needs to be practiced, refined, and supported by policy and culture. Whether you’re new to HR or a seasoned leader, revisiting these principles can sharpen your judgment and strengthen your voice in moments that matter. Ethical leadership starts with asking the hard questions and being willing to speak up, even when it’s uncomfortable. As HR professionals, we have the opportunity—and responsibility—to model what integrity looks like in action.

    Think about a time when you were faced with an ethical dilemma or an unclear ethics in the workplace situation. What did you do? Looking back, is there anything you would have done differently? Ethical decisions in HR rarely come with applause—but it’s essential to building organizations people can trust.

    NEW! Ethics in HR eCourse

  • Lead Better: The Power of Values in Performance Management

    Lead Better: The Power of Values in Performance Management

    Last year, I had the privilege of facilitating leadership training at the managers retreat for one of our clients—a dynamic group of leaders committed to growing their impact and investing in their teams. We explored Horizon Point’s People First Method, diving into what it means to create a motivating environment where people can grow, and how to lead with empathy, appreciation, and accountability.

    This year, I had the opportunity to return and work with the same group for the same retreat. This time, we didn’t have to start from scratch—we built on the foundation we had laid and went deeper into effective performance management.

    Building on Shared Values

    We kicked things off by revisiting the key theme from last year, that leaders create the conditions for performance—not just by setting goals, but by empowering people, modeling values, and cultivating trust.

    Performance management can’t just be about metrics and compliance. At Horizon Point, we believe you can’t talk about effective teams without talking about ethics. That’s why this year’s retreat included a focus on values-based leadership and ethical behavior—how what we say we believe matches what we actually do.

    Inspired by Michael Schur’s book How to Be Perfect, we discussed the idea that ethical leadership isn’t about perfection—it’s about effort. Schur writes:

    “If we really work at finding the means of our virtues…we become flexible, inquisitive, adaptable, and better people.”

    This mindset shaped how we approached each element of effective performance management. How do you give feedback that’s honest and respectful? How do you coach someone toward growth without imposing your own agenda? How do you document performance issues in a way that is fair and factual?

    These are not just management questions—they’re ethical ones.

    Four Pillars of Effective Performance Management

    Throughout the session, we worked through four key pillars of effective performance management, using industry-specific examples and interactive activities:

    1. Clarifying Expectations and Delivering Feedback
    Using the SBI (Situation–Behavior–Impact) model, leaders practiced giving clear, actionable feedback rooted in real scenarios. For many, this exercise revealed how much clarity and tone matter—and how easily feedback can be misinterpreted when those are missing.

    We like the Center for Creative Leadership’s resources for using SBI:

    2. Coaching Conversations That Drive Development
    We explored the GROW model and discussed the differences between coaching, mentoring, and correcting. Through small group role-plays, leaders sharpened their ability to listen, ask powerful questions, and support employee growth without jumping to solutions.

    We like this resource from NYU: The GROW Framework

    3. Creating a Culture That Reflects Values
    Leaders identified what a positive culture “looks like, sounds like, and feels like,” aligning those cultural cues with their everyday behaviors. The result? A shared language for reinforcing a high-trust, high-performance environment.

    We talk a lot about values at Horizon Point, including how values can shape your performance management system.

    4. Documenting Behavior Effectively and Objectively
    We wrapped the content with a practical look at documentation. Using mini case studies, managers practiced writing clear, objective notes that could support both development and accountability—crucial in regulated environments like that of this client’s industry.

    Leading with Purpose—Together

    Honestly, my favorite part of this trip was seeing these leaders again. Because we had already built trust and rapport in our first session together, we could push further this time—having real conversations about challenges, risks, and gray areas. And as we wove values and ethics into the technical skills of effective performance management, it was clear that this wasn’t a “one and done” training. When organizations commit to long-term leadership development, the impact is exponential. You create a shared foundation, build momentum, and keep growing together.

    Whether it’s a one-time retreat or a multi-year journey like this one, our team at Horizon Point is ready to partner with you. We bring structure, strategy, and storytelling to the leadership space—making it practical, personal, and rooted in purpose.

    Let’s build something together!

  • Understanding Behavior Styles Can Turn Conflict into Growth

    Understanding Behavior Styles Can Turn Conflict into Growth

    For the past two semesters, I’ve been part of the Highlands College Leadership Institute, and if I’m honest, I’ve often felt like an imposter. Leadership hasn’t always come naturally to me. Speaking of understanding behavior styles, I know I tend to thrive in supportive roles rather than taking center stage. According to the DiSC personality assessment, my style is SC-calm, conscientious, and supportive. That means I avoid the spotlight and steer clear of conflict when I can.

    But here’s the twist: this very discomfort has become a space for deep growth.

    Through both Highlands College and my professional work with Horizon Point, I’ve been diving into conflict resolution. It turns out, understanding personality styles-not just our own, but others too, can dramatically shift how we handle disagreements in the workplace.

    At Highlands, Chris and Sophie Corder from Designed for Unity have been helping us explore how our DiSC styles shape our approach to conflict. They draw from Robert A. Rohm’s powerful framework in The Ultimate Discovery System, which teaches how understanding behavior styles can unlock harmony at work.

    Here’s what I’ve learned-and why it matters.

    The Four DiSC Styles: How They Handle Conflict Differently

    (Note: There are many models for understanding behavior styles, and we recommend using more than one to better understand ourselves and others. This is simply one tool we like.)

    According to Rohm, people tend to operate within four key behavioral types:

    • Dominant (D): Assertive, results-focused, and direct. In conflict, they can seem intense or confrontational. To resolve issues, speak to their need for efficiency and solutions.
    • Influential (I): Outgoing, optimistic, and persuasive. These people might avoid tough conversations, so approach them with empathy and affirm their ideas.
    • Steady (S): Calm, patient, and loyal. They value peace and can shy away from conflict. Give them reassurance and plenty of time to process.
    • Conscientious (C): Precise, logical, and detail-oriented. They’ll want facts, not feelings. Offer clear data and structured solutions.

    Know Thyself: The Power of Self-Awareness in Conflict

    Understanding others is key-but knowing yourself might be even more important.

    • What triggers your frustration?
    • How do you respond under pressure?
    • Do you tend to avoid conflict or rush to solve it?

    By becoming aware of your own behavioral style, you can better regulate your reactions and navigate conflict more intentionally.

    Communication Tips for Resolving Conflict Effectively

    Conflict can either divide teams or deepen trust. The difference often comes down to how we communicate.

    Here are some key strategies from The Ultimate Discovery System:

    • Listen actively. Before offering solutions, seek to truly understand the other person’s point of view.
    • Tailor your communication. Match your tone and approach to the other person’s DiSC style for better connection.
    • Focus on solutions. Keep the conversation future-focused instead of rehashing problems.

    Collaboration > Competition: Shift the Workplace Mindset

    One of Rohm’s most valuable insights? Conflict resolution isn’t about winning. It’s about understanding and collaborating. Teams function best when they embrace diverse styles and strengths, working together instead of pulling in different directions.

    When we honor different perspectives and communicate with intention, conflict becomes a tool for progress, not a threat to it.

    Ready to Rethink Conflict?

    Conflict is inevitable. But with the right tools, self-awareness, communication, and behavioral insight, it doesn’t have to feel like chaos. It can be the start of something better.

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