Recruit and retain. Business metaphor with puzzles
I could tell before he opened the door to the car that something had gone wrong at school. My ten-year-old gets in the car, sits down, and scowls. I ask him what’s wrong and he doesn’t answer. I ask his sister what is wrong and she says she doesn’t know.
I’m afraid to have to tell him that we are now headed to do something that he does not like to do, which is to go to reading lessons. He loves his reading teacher, but he just hates to read. Especially when he is in a bad mood.
Sister goes to reading too, but for the exact opposite reason. She loves to read, so when she goes to reading she gets to do something she likes.
I try to think of a way to tell him he has reading for the afternoon without World War III breaking loose. I remember a podcast by the Neuroleadership Institute that I had recently listened to about how to return to the office well. In it, it talked a lot about the value of giving people autonomy, of giving people choices.
So, I asked my son, “Would you like to go to reading first or second?”
“Second!” he says “Definitely second.”
I drop sister off at reading and take him home for a snack and a little break. His mood begins to change, and by the time I take to reading, he is happy. His belly is full, he got to make a choice- a kind of choice that is usually made for him- and he was able to hit the reset button.
Mission accomplished.
Can it be this simple at work? Can just giving people choices over things make a difference? The research and brain science says it sure can.
Take for example studies (here is one in particular) that cite workers given the autonomy (permission) to decorate their own cubicles saw up to a 25% increase in productivity.
COVID has exacerbated the need for autonomy at the office for two reasons 1) Many of us have tasted autonomy in work by being able to work from home (or from anywhere) and we don’t want it stripped back. Taking autonomy away activates all kinds of stress in the form of a threat response. 2) COVID created a lot of stress from uncertainty, where there weren’t a lot of choices, and people need to be able to step back from that stress. One way to do this is to allow for choices or continue to allow choices around where, when, and how work gets done. These reasons and responses are two sides to the same coin.
So what can you do as a leader to help cultivate autonomy at work?:
Resisting the urge to command and control as a leader at work (and as a parent) pays dividends. It always has, but it is increasingly needed as leaders think about how to effectively transition after COVID in order to continue to retain and recruit top talent. Because top talent does have choices, and they will exercise the need to have it by going elsewhere if you don’t foster autonomy at your place of work.
How do you and how will you foster autonomy in work?
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